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Comment on Welcome to Of Sound Mind to Marry

drjbierm — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 02:15:48 GMT

Yes, I have been married. I've written "Of Sound Mind to Marry" as a guide for relationships at any stage of relationships, although I've addressed it especially to Pre-Weds. Some guides help you 'follow a star', while others try to keep you from falling into a hole in the path. I'm in the latter group. I've been there and know the pitfalls. I talk about these issues with first-hand experience.

What are your plans for marriage? Are you in a relationship now?

Comment on Welcome to Of Sound Mind to Marry

anybody — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 00:18:11 GMT

Have you ever been married?

Comment on "Of Sound Mind to Marry" to be published by Praeger Publishing

Lucia — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 15:31:45 GMT

Thanks for this. It really helped me out!

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Nikki — Sat, 12 Jan 2008 01:43:25 GMT

I checked out your book on the Greenwood website, I have to say, I can’t wait to get my fingers on it! I have been married for almost three years and I must say I wish I had read your book before tying the knot! Wow I had no idea that marriage was going to be this mentally challenging. Thank god for good friends.

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Richard Geller — Fri, 11 Jan 2008 03:01:15 GMT

So much of life should come with an owner's manual, but doesn't.

Jim's book comes awfully close to being an owner's manual for people who are thinking of marrying.

I run a service that matches counselors and therapists with couples and individuals. So I was eager to read Jim's book and hoping it would serve for many couples who may want to read rather than see someone, or want to supplement what their religious or secular counseling provides them.

I haven't seen anything quite like this before.

In my work I have several hundred clients, most of whom do some pre-marital counseling.

If couples just read this book, they wouldn't need anything else. That's how good the book is.

A great deal of thought that someone should give to getting married is really in asking the right questions. And those questions are clearly spelled out.

The first few chapters talk about how we need to ask honest questions about how we feel about our partner -- questions that are difficult to ask in the "altered state of being in love" as Jim puts it.

Then the book explores what most of us don't know to ask, and think about, with respect to children, and in-laws and a host of other issues that often cause problems in a marriage because we don't expect them.

The last part talks about specific issues and methods. This is worth the price of the book because a lot of problems can be avoided by good communication -- and Jim distills wisdom of how to communicate in easy clear language and exercises that couples can learn.

I don't expect anything will truly replace in-person counseling, but Jim's book is almost as good. Buy a copy today for yourself or for a friend or family member who is going to get married.

--Richard Geller

Comment on Pre-order Of Sound Mind to Marry

Harville Hendrix, Ph. D. — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 16:20:01 GMT

Endorsement From Harville Hendrix, Ph. D. author, Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples
All couples prepare for their wedding but few for their marriage. For those couples who want to insure their marriage endures, this book is an excellent and essential guide. I recommend it without reservation.

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Linda Adams President and CEO, Gordon Training International — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 16:18:18 GMT

Endorsement From Linda Adams President and CEO, Gordon Training International
Jim Bierman's book is packed with enlightening and practical advice for any couple planning for marriage. He shows them how to deal directly with every important aspect of their relationship ahead of time and in a sensitive, loving way. I highly recommend it both to anyone planning to be married and to professionals who work with couples.

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Peter J. Larson, Ph.D. LP Vice President, Life Innovations, Inc.: — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 16:16:52 GMT

Endorsement From Peter J. Larson, Ph.D. LP Vice President, Life Innovations, Inc.
Of Sound Mind to Marry offers a well-informed overview of the journey into marriage. Not just another book filled with advice, Bierman's understanding of the psychological nuances of premarital and marriage relationships is presented in a clear and useful format. Add this one to your premarital reading list. A fresh treatment of the journey into marriage; Of Sound Mind to Marry is a sophisticated psychological look at forming a life-long relationship. Bierman is not afraid to tackle the difficult topics such as prenuptial agreements and deciding not to marry.

Comment on "Of Sound Mind to Marry" to be published by Praeger Publishing

Wendy F. — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 16:15:00 GMT

Premarital Counseling for yourself and for family members
My husband is a minister and he will not preform a ceremony for any couple who first will not sit down and go through some premarital counseling with him .Couples need to go into marriage with their eyes wide open, and premarital counseling provides that avenue. http://www.gather.com/viewArticle.jsp?articleId=281474976909832

Comment on "Of Sound Mind to Marry" to be published by Praeger Publishing

Smiley E. — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 16:13:16 GMT

Of Sound Mind to Marry
I am not married or even close to being married but in a relationship and think that this was an excellent article even just for those that are dating. Smiley E. http://www.gather.com/viewArticle.jsp?articleId=281474976894114